how do i go about meeting guys i like. the guys I like don't like me.
I think the best thing to do is to really put yourself out there. I know, I know—easier said than done. I have the same problem; I find these guys who are completely awesome and for some damn reason I get shoved into the no-man’s land known as The Friend Zone.
You don’t need that. My advice is to get out. Grab a friend to be your wingwoman and head out for battle. If you’re a little shy, having a friend there as backup is great and eases the tension. Try going to places you’re comfortable. My friend used to pick up guys at the dog park. I have no idea how she did it, because she didn’t even have a damn dog.
There are so many places to meet guys, but honestly the only surefire way to attract others is to confidence. A confident (not cocky) woman is seriously attractive. When you’re sure of yourself, that positive energy will radiate off you and people can’t help but notice.
Love your stories.. ar eyou ever planning to publish ? more people need to be putting money in your pockets .. amazing stories !
Why thank you! And yes, I’m currently in the process of trying to get something published. Actually, I’m in the very early stages of writing something that I hope will be published. Fingers crossed that I’ll eventually get by butt in gear.
Here is the link for the Ch 5 preview. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to show because SO MUCH happens in this chapter and I didn’t want to spoil it. I finally decided to go with the first few pages. It’s basically the background story on Grady and Edie’s breakup.
I’m taking a break from editing Getting Over Edie Ch. 5 to write about something that’s been bugging me today. I’ve been incredibly behind on my reading, so I decided to head over to Lit and check out the new ish. There’s a story that recently garnered a good amount of attention and I decided to take a look.
To make this quick, this particular story posted a new chapter this week and while the overall tone of the comments was positive, a few people remarked about the clunky flow of the story and the author’s heavy-handed use of descriptors. Most people were able to write well-intentioned, constructive criticisms. There were only a small number (out of well over 50 comments) who were out of line. The writer posted a comment and it didn’t sit so well with me.
The comment basically said that the story was therapy for their benefit, not the readers and if people couldn’t follow the story it was their own fault.
Now this is the internet. Our words and tone are bound to be miscontrued, but this particular comment came off as unbelievably smug. I’m hoping it was just my perception, but looking at the comments after the writer’s response some people felt the same way.
I guess what irritated the hell out of me was not only the writer’s response, but that she completely wrote off certain critiques of the story as “self-centered silliness”. In my opinion, that’s complete bullshit. You can’t just put on rose-colored glasses and expect every single response to your work to be filled with praise and joy. I get hate-filled messages every day, but I know how to distinguish between people just being douchebags and someone with a serious, well-meaning critique. There’s a big difference in a comment meant to tell the author how to write their story, and a comment telling a writer that their story was hard to follow.
As writers, we write for ourselves, but we have to learn to take our knocks too. Feedback, good or bad helps up grow, strengthen our skills, etc. If you can’t handle honest criticisms on ways to improve your story, then maybe you just need to write in a diary.
Or don’t post your “couples therapy exercises” in a public forum.
/rant over. I’m done throwing shade. Getting Over Edie preview tonight at 12:30!
“And the great owners, who must lose their land in an upheaval, the great owners with access to history, with eyes to read history and to know the great fact: when property accumulates in too few hands it is taken away. And that companion fact: when a majority of the people are hungry and cold they will take by force what they need. And the little screaming fact that sounds through all history: repression works only to strengthen and knit the repressed.”—John Steinbeck, The Grapes of Wrath
Love your stories! This seems like a random question but what's your ideal body type for a female?
Hmm. Well I think beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. I know, I know…people say that bullshit all the time. My theory is, if we were supposed to look a certain way then why would we be so different?
The truth is, there really isn’t an “ideal body type” but rather we judge based on our personal standards of beauty. Sometimes that standard is better (or about the same) with how we view ourselves (if that makes any sense).
For me, I’m partial to girls of a thicker variety. I write stories with various body shapes, but since I’m a taller, bigger girl it’s nice to write what I know (and it’s also nice to see the fun, fat chick nab a hot guy for a change).
Weight is such a touchy subject for people. I think as long as you maintain a steady exercise regimen and eat healthy, then it isn’t anyone’s damn business what you look like/weigh. Skinny, short, fat, tall, and everything in between…we’re all fucking awesome.
I was set to post a preview yesterday, but my computer had a mini-seizure. Long story short…I’m back to the drawing board. Luckily I was only about 12 pages in and I have about 8 pages saved on a thumb drive, so I’m not completely screwed. This just means I’ll have to rework some things.
Don’t worry. I will still make my deadline of having Chapter 5 out to you by next Friday. And that’s counting the 3-4 days it takes for Lit to approve the story.
Thanks for all the Happy Birthday wishes. You guys made this old gal feel really special. I mean, 25 isn’t old, but I feel different. My birthday celebration was nice. It was good to reunite with some of my college crew and kick back. It felt like old times, sitting at a bar, drinking beer, and bullshitting about boys and the like.
Speaking of boys, the one I’m still not over made himself scarce. He didn’t even wish me Happy Birthday. I was a little bummed and still am. However I did meet a lovely Marine over the weekend who was all too willing to cheer me up. :)
So that was a nice, but temporary relief from my brooding. Now it’s back to the grind. I returned home to some very nasty emails and comments about a lack of an update. I apologize. I know this is a cliche, but life does get in the way. I’m going through a very tough transition period and my writing schedule is a bit erratic. But I suppose I’ll have to step my efforts up.
For those of you who are being so patient, I really do appreciate it. Chapter preview will be posted tonight at midnight.
Well this isn't a question or anything but I just wanted to say that I think you are AMAZING and I love the diverse stories that you write - I'm constantly checking for updates. So... yeah I thought I would let you know that you are just supercalifragilisticexpialidocious in case you didn't already know ;)
Haha, thank you! I have so many thoughts and crazy ideas in my head, and I’m always nervous when I finally put them down on paper. But it feels awesome to know that people enjoy my stuff. It really makes doing this worthwhile! As for updates, I know I’ve been slacking but there WILL be a new chapter out by next week.
Still writing Ch. 5; I’m working hard, even though I think I’m getting sick. I seriously hope that isn’t the case because my BIRTHDAY is 11 Days away and I don’t want to hack up a lung on my day. I hope to be finished by Wednesday.
The Favorite Couples Poll is still going strong. Remember, the last day to vote is November 5th. The winning couple gets a holiday-themed story. You can vote more than once and for more than one couple. Right now, Derek and Tegan are killing it.